Text Conversation

Mighty-Girl has been borrowing my phone to text her godmother. (Technically DG’s godmother but I figure if you’re godparent to one child, you get the siblings thrown in free!) MG wants a sleepover at Auntie C’s house, or just a ‘grown up’ day with her. Auntie C is girly where Mummy is not, and she also spoils the girls rotten, as well as being thoroughly awesome all round.

I have a lock app on my phone so the children can’t access messages or task manager or files, but it stopped working this week so MG has been sending messages without my knowledge. The conversation is lovely though, so I had to share!

09:58, 15 Jun
Please may i come to your
House from eleanor

13:59, 15 Jun
Hey u of course u can. I will
arrange a date with mummy
soon promise love and hugs
me xxx

15:09, 16 Jun
Ok

15:11, 16 Jun
Ok from eleanor xxxxxxxxx

17:11, 16 Jun
I think I could come
On sunday to your
house. Luve eleanor
XXXxxxXxxxx7xxx7xxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
xxxxxxx77, xxxxxxxxx
xxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxx

08:25, 17 Jun
I didn’t even know she sent
that last message, cheeky girl!
:-)

08:30, 17 Jun
I don’t realy mean
It at all
Luve eleanor
Xxxxxxx7Xxxxzxxxzxxxxx

19:33, 17 Jun
No worries lol. Shows how
clever she is ;-) I will get back
to u this week promise Eleanor
love me xx

(MG asked me whether the clever bit applied to me or her before replying!)

20:29, 17 Jun
Thank you for calling
Me A clever girl
I luve you lots
From eleanor
Xxxxxxxxxxx
Xx7
Xxxxxxxxxxx xxxxxxxxxxx
XXxxxxxxxxx
Xxxxxxxxxxx

20:44, 17 Jun
And can I come to
A sleap over at your
House .
Xxx

20:54, 17 Jun
We’ll organise visit first and
then sleep over love me xx

06:52, 18 Jun
As well can i come
An help do the bed
, xxx

I wasn’t even awake when the last message was sent! Mighty-Girl is very wonderful, and cheeky. She can certainly organise things better than me, poor Auntie C!

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Use of Weapons by Iain M Banks

Use of Weapons: Iain M Banks (Orbit, 1990)I’ve been meaning to re-read Banks for a long time, and his untimely death also meant I wanted to honour his memory in some way too. A small, personal way, for an author who had an impact on me.

This is less of a review, and more of a comparison of reading the same novel almost seventeen years apart, considering the historical context of when I first read it. There will be spoilers. They may be subtle, but if you want to read this book for the first time, don’t read on…

I almost met Iain Banks once. I kicked myself for the memory years later, but… There was a book-signing at The Friar Street Bookshop in Reading. Back in the mid-nineties (which seems like no time ago to me, despite nearly twenty years passing), The Friar Street Bookshop was a science-fiction specialist bookshop and therefore utterly wonderful. It was one of Blackwell’s bookshops and as I came from Oxford and was at university in Reading, it became a favourite haunt.

This was a couple of years before the final collapse of the net book agreement, so all books sold for RRP, and ‘real’ bookshops were rife. That’s not quite true, as Reading also had a shop selling discounted books that I practically lived in, but I think they had to be ‘damaged’ in some way. It was 1994 and The Friar Street Bookshop had a joint signing for two authors: Tom Holt (for Faust Among Equals) and Iain (M) Banks (for Feersum Endjinn).

I was (and still am) hugely fond of humourous fantasy (Terry Pratchett mainly) and had enjoyed all Tom Holt’s books to that point. They’d already lost the brilliance of his first half-dozen and I don’t think I actually read any after then. But at the time I’d been collecting his books, enjoying them, and was excited about the book signing. There was a huge queue. Not to Pratchett (or Gaiman, who I also hadn’t discovered yet) signing-queue standards, but a huge queue none-the-less.

I think no more than half a dozen people came for Tom Holt. I vaguely wondered who this Iain Banks person was but wasn’t curious enough to buy the book so I queue-jumped massively as everyone else was there for Banks, got my signed book, and returned home.

It was another two years before I read any Banks, and Use of Weapons was one of the first handful I read. I’d struggled with Consider Phlebas, but found Use of Weapons far more readable. I’d also read The Wasp Factory and seen the BBC Crow Road adaptation, so didn’t manage to read that for several years until the TV version faded enough. The Wasp Factory stunned me. Use of Weapons stunned me. I remember feeling almost breathless at the end.

I was young, twenty-one, just failed my degree and although ‘well read’, not in a literature sense. I studied (sort of) engineering; my A-Levels were maths and science. I was well read in horror, science fiction and humourous fantasy, with a soft spot for James Clavell novels.

The structure of the novel was new to me. The alternating chapters tell the current plot, and the history of the main protagonist; one narrative going forwards, the other backwards. Throughout there are hints to the chair, what the chair means, why it is so terrible.

On re-reading I was worried that the fact I remember what the chair was would destroy any shock for the ending. As it turned out, I had actually forgotten the part that had floored me all those years ago, but the chair itself was so horrific that it stuck with me. Leaving years between re-reads meant that although much of it was familiar, it was like reading from scratch. Apart from thinking throughout that I ‘knew’ the shocks the ending had in store.

I was thoroughly drawn back into the world of the Culture, and so taken in by all the characters that I didn’t look out for any twists or shocks. These days, with films especially, the ‘twist’ ending is such a stalwart that you can usually guess them a mile off. I’m glad that the memory of the chair was so strong that it became the ‘thing’ that I remembered and I could be shocked again, albeit more mildly.

I’m tempted to start rereading another Banks novel, but as I managed to miss the last three SF novels and have just ordered them, Use of Weapons has probably just set me up to start Matter when it arrives. If I don’t read The Quarry first.

For my twenty-one year old self, this is a five star novel. For my almost-thirty-eight year old self, this is probably a four star novel. I gave it five stars on Goodreads for nostalgia.

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Our Week in Books #24

Goodness, where has the last week gone? I’ve just retro-published the last week-in-books as I forgot to post it last week. I remain utterly lax on both updating Goodreads, and reading books.

I have sorted out some books for decluttering and gave 29 to the girls’ school (plus have 16 needing to be hauled to a charity shop). It was a good week for decluttering. I also filled the 240ltr recycle bin at least 3/4 full and got rid of 4 plastic sacks of clothes and bedding to Bag2School. The 45 picture books removed from the shelves seem to be a drop in the ocean though, and I have piles of unshelved books again because I really need a cull. Sniffle.

No books purchased this week – haha! Apart from the four Iain Banks that should arrive next week. I never tried to keep up with his mainstream fiction, but I did read all the SF up to The Algebraist. Amazon (I know, I’m sorry!) had a selection of Banks novels for £3.99 including hardbacks so I got the last three SF novels plus The Quarry. To get back in the mood, I’m re-reading Use of Weapons, which when I first read it in my early twenties left me stunned. More so than The Wasp Factory. I’m older now, and I have a memory of how the book goes, but it’s still a bit vague so I’m wondering how the writing will affect me now. Within the first couple of chapters I realised this is the one that shapes everything I think about Banks’ Culture novels. Almost all the specifics I remember are from this novel. I sobbed through his final interview on iPlayer. He was gone far too soon.

I do seem to use this week-in-books post as my kind-of diary. I don’t expect anyone to actually read them, they’re just for me! All those silly little lists of unimportant things (like number of books read!) that I like to remember. I regularly regret not keeping up on lists I’ve started in the past: every book purchased or read; every film seen in the cinema… Not sure why I kept them, but still wish I’d always done it. I never did manage to keep diaries going.

Anyhow, enough rambling, onto this weeks uninteresting stats!

New Picture Books read this week:
Clare Beaton's Bedtime Rhymes

Books added to shelves: 5 review books. Cumulative book spend: £371.19 + £12 loyalty card (241 books)

Library books borrowed: none. Cumulative library books borrowed: 75+. Library books currently in the house: 18. I really need to take some back! Although we haven’t read most of the last two batches, some serious story nights needed…

Books removed from shelves: 29. Cumulative book removal: 170 books.

Challenge books read: none finished

Year progress: 166/365 = 45.5%
Picture Book Challenge progress: 307/300 = 102.3%
50 Book Challenge / Read 52 progress: 29/52 = 55.8%

A reading challenge from http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup

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Have you enjoyed my recent posts?

I’m wondering how you found my recent posts? The one bemoaning the changes in GCSEs, setting up more children for ‘failure’ when they’re not failures at all. Then there was the one about positive male role models, and how the report on single mothers and ‘man deserts’ does a huge disservice to families.

How about my post on the worries for my daughters’ school getting their third head in two years? It’s a wonderful school but what will happen if Ofsted decide that some boxes have been missed and try to force academy status, or worse ship children off to a huge primary miles away instead of their small local one?

Then the posts on the books we’ve enjoyed. The picture book that I felt completely missed on all levels and we didn’t like? The first early reader that MG got through on her own? The analysis of our favourite picture books?

And those thoughts on gender stereotyping yet again, in all areas of life. Plus the loss to the literary world of Iain Banks, and how I didn’t know I actually did read ‘literary fiction’ after all…

Oh, and did I mention how we joined a summer book exchange and am planning out crafts to go with the book of our choice, or that I’ve been selected as part of the Nosy Crow Crew?

All those posts and more. What, you missed those? Maybe it would have helped if I’d actually typed them out instead of just thinking them in my head as I fall asleep at night? Yeah, that would be good…

My new June’s resolution: try to write more! In the meantime, here are some other blogs writing some of what I wanted to say far more eloquently as ever:

Read about how Sally Whittle ended up on Newsnight, and did an amazing job, and Iona Burchell muses about Positive Male Role Model Day.

Leoarna Matthis rants about the rhetoric of rigour, and as usual I not only agree with her but wish I had a fraction of her writing skill. Ross Mountney shares Michael Rosen’s excellent video on his views on education (can someone in power please listen to this?!)

And finally, Iain Banks final interview on iPlayer (available until Tues 18 June 2013).

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Just Like My Dad App News plus Book Giveaway

For those new to the blog, you may not know that I we are huge fans of David Melling in the Chaos household. This addiction goes back six years, when I purchased a copy of Just Like My Dad from one of our local bookshops for Mr Chaos’ first Father’s Day when MG was only a few months old.

That book is enjoyed as much now as it was then. Well, technically it’s enjoyed much more as there’s only so much a four-month old gets out a book, and we’ve double the children now! But I’m sure you understood what I meant before I decided to add needless clarification…

Just Like My Dad app screen

Today, 13th June 2013, Just Like My Dad is being released as an app. Perfect for Father’s Day sharing, it includes burp and fart sounds. What more does any self-respecting 2-8 year old want than burp and fart sounds? Apparently this also applies to most dads too, but I try to avoid gender stereotyping…

I don’t have anything to run apps on, so normally leave app reviews to the wonderful CApptivated Kids. But the fact that the app includes David Melling illustrations and is based on Just Like My Dad would make it worth the £1.99 price tag in my opinion!

Just Like My Dad app screen

The Just Like My Dad app is released in iOS and Android versions, and is available from the iTunes AppStore and Google Play in the UK, Europe, Australia and North America. I’ll add links as soon as I get them.

I normally ignore press releases in my reviews, but as this isn’t a review here’s some facts from the press release:

  • Narrated by a child actor to appeal to children using the app
  • ‘Read to me’, ‘Read by myself’ and ‘Record myself’ options
  • Available in all options, each screen has automated and touch-activated animation
  • Available in all options, each screen includes touch-activated sound effects, including farting skunks and burping dad and son lion
  • Children get to torment ‘dad’ by ripping plasters off the dad lion
  • ‘Record myself’ option allows a child and father to have fun recording the story together

Sounds like fun. I think my two would particularly like the ripping plasters off dad lion part! Amazingly I haven’t actually reviewed Just Like My Dad yet, but for an idea of the style I have written about Just Like My Mum.

Just Like My Dad app screen

To celebrate the release, Hachette have offered me five sets of the Just Like My Dad board book plus toy lion to giveaway. If the lion is anything like the mini Hugless Douglas from his book/toy set then it is cuter than cute (and small enough to smuggle into schoolbags for a bit of comfort away from home…) I wish I could enter my own competitions!

Just Like My Dad Book and Toy Box Set

To be in with a chance of winning one of these book/toy sets, please enter via the Rafflecopter widget below. The prizes will be sent direct from the publisher. Obviously they won’t arrive in time for Father’s Day, but this is a book to be enjoyed any day of the year. The deadline is midnight on Tuesday 18th June. Open to UK addresses only. Winners must reply with addresses within 5 days of drawing, or another winner will be drawn. Five prizes on offer.

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Father’s Day Books

Is it really Father’s Day this Sunday? I know it’s always the third Sunday in June, but I had in my head that it was 23rd June, not 16th! Then again, I think today is the 2nd of June, not the 11th. Or perhaps April. 2010. So my date-keeping isn’t that impressive…

There are lots of lovely books involving Fathers but I hope you don’t mind if I only cover two recent releases that I’ve been sent!

I Love My Daddy: Giles Andreae & Emma Daddy (Orchard Books, 2011)Firstly, there’s the board book version of I Love My Daddy from the team of Giles Andreae and Emma Dodd. A lovely celebration of dad-ness that quite fits our family (the dad is shown cooking pancakes; this is the only thing Mr Chaos volunteers to cook – apart from BBQs of course!) I like how the toddler child pictured could be male or female, making this accessible to any gender of blonde, white child. It is a nice book. It’s not a stand-out or particularly showcasing the talents of Giles Andreae or Emma Dodd, who between them have an amazing body of work, but it’s a nice book. I was going to offer our copy as a giveaway (my two being a bit on the old side for board books apart from their extra-special ones) but someone’s used this book to lean on when drawing so there are small dents in the cover and it’s not good enough (in my opinion) to give away. However, if you’d like it, the first person to contact me will get it in the post – not in time for Father’s Day alas!

There, There: Sam McBratney & Ivan Bates (Templar Publishing, 2013)Secondly, is a book I am far more excited about. There, There by Sam McBratney and Ivan Bates is stunningly beautiful. Sam McBratney is the writer of Guess How Much I Love You?, a book that is a classic but only a so-so book for me. What really makes There, There are Ivan Bates delicious illustrations. I’ve just realised I’ve managed to miss a whole series of books illustrated by Ivan Bates and will be tracking them down forthwith! This story follows Hansie Bear (what a gorgeous name!) as he plays and, as small children do, he gets minor hurts along the way. His dad is there, watching him from a suitable distance, allowing Hansie freedom to play and learn but always being there for a hug and the comforting words of “There, there…” This is a lovely book to share with small toddlers who may be afraid of trying new things, reassuring them that we’ll always be there for them (but not wrapping them up in cotton wool so they can’t appreciate the world or have fun!) but also lovely to share with older children who already know this and who will fall in love with cute little Hansie and his Dad. MG and DG do think he’s cute, and can relate to how Hansie gives his dad a hug at the end to cheer him up because we’re a family who supports each other and our girls have hugged Mummy and Daddy when we’ve been down too. A gorgeously beautiful book with a lovely message, and a fantastic Father’s Day gift too – you’ve still time to order this in to your local independent book store or buy online in time to get it for Sunday. We won’t be giving our copy away I’m afraid!

Last year I reviewed My Daddy by Curtis Jobling. The first Father’s Day book I bought Mr Chaos was Just Like My Dad by David Melling, which six years on is still a firm favourite.

Disclaimer: We were sent copies of I Love My Daddy by Hachette Children’s Books and There, There by Templar Publishing for review. No other financial reward was given and the opinions are my own. I was not asked to write this post.

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Merits

I’m not a fan of grades and merits in schools. It’s a turnaround for me because I used to judge myself via grades and exam scores. I now realise that it wasn’t a healthy mindset; extrinsic rewards (which also translated to me ‘rewarding’ or ‘consoling’ myself with food, something that also hasn’t helped me in life) didn’t make me happy or fulfilled in the long-term.

My daughters used to attend a Montessori nursery. I’d first read about Montessori before I even had a child and believe in the principle of her education philosophy. Montessori education is child-led and has no grades, exams or homework. This was my ideal education, but finances dictated differently. Although home education currently isn’t an option, the local state primary is lovely. It has so much of the best parts of the education I believe in.

It also subscribes to the mainstream view on rewards. Earlier this year they introduced a merit system where the children are given merits and get a certificate for every 25 merits received. I’m sure there are agreed principles behind the awarding of merits, but… Well, there are two things I want to rant about.

Firstly, MG was mildly constipated earlier in the year and gained a slight fear of the toilet. It was short-lived; we encouraged and supported her, trying to reduce her fear that it would hurt. We let the school know so they could support her too if needed. She managed to use the toilet to relieve herself at school. And was given a merit. The next night, she refused to go to the toilet reasoning that if she saved it for school, she’d get another merit…

Secondly, merit systems appear to be fundamentally unfair to well-behaved and quiet children. How do you explain to your child why her classmate, whose name has come up several times as one who has bitten other children and is often rude or disruptive, has more merits than her? What do you say when your child feels she has less worth compared to other classmates based on the number of merits each has?

I used to work for an organisation that funded post-16 education in England and Wales (a now defunct Quango) and included in that funding were projects to help disadvantaged children into education and training. Projects where children and young people who skipped lessons and training were incentivised with rewards but their hard-working classmates from similar backgrounds were ignored.

I am supposed to see that this is a good thing because it gets the children and young people who miss education and training back on track. I do think that the result is a good thing, if it works. I still can’t see how being inherently unfair to hard-working children and young people from equally deprived backgrounds is fair.

For children, primary aged children particularly, I wish we could move away from the ideas of grading and cajoling young lives into a box that (certain) adults have prescribed for them. We’re here to guide and nurture them. I want a better world for my children, I want them to make a better world. Am I really so odd for wanting this? Do we really want our children to suffer unfairness because we had to, so they’d better get used to it?

It seems to me that these merit systems and incentives are more likely to encourage people to give up being hard-working and considerate because what’s the point if you’re effectively just going to be punished for it? I’d love to hear your views on the subject too, please add your thoughts below.

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Our Week in Books #23

Given the milestone last week, I have again been totally relaxed on keeping Goodreads up-to-date. It’s too easy to lose track of picture books read so from now on I’ll try to just keep the new reads (new as in not on Goodreads) added instead of keeping up with all books read.

After no review books last week, a pack of four arrived this week. I still feel incredibly fortunate about the number of books we receive. I am still terribly behind on reviews and must catch up so I can pass some books on. We have too many to keep them all. The bookshelves need a deep cull really but I don’t want to!

We’ve joined a book swap hosted by The Educators’ Spin On It, so I’m currently planning craft ideas to go with a book to send. Very exciting.

New Picture Books read this week:
Yucky Mucky Manners The Perfect Present Pittipat's Saucer of Moon Llama Llama Shopping Drama

Books added to shelves: 4 review books; 1 new Mostly Books. Cumulative book spend: £371.19 + £12 loyalty card (236 books) Also one for book swap, not counted.

Library books borrowed: none. Cumulative library books borrowed: 75+.

Books removed from shelves: none. Cumulative book removal: 141 books.

Challenge books read: The Homework Myth

Year progress: 159/365 = 43.6%
Picture Book Challenge progress: 306/300 = 102.0%
50 Book Challenge / Read 52 progress: 29/52 = 55.8%

A reading challenge from http://liveotherwise.co.uk/makingitup

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Mabel and Me Best of Friends by Mark Sperring & Sarah Warburton

Mabel and Me Best of Friends by Mark Sperring & Sarah Warburton

Mabel and Me Best of Friends: Mark Sperring & Sarah Warburton (HarperCollins Children’s Books, 2013)

Unlikely friends are a common theme in children’s books. Unlikely friends. But let’s think about that for a bit. Terry Pratchett writes in his Discworld novels that million-to-one chances work out nine times out of ten and it seems to me that unlikely friends are just as likely. I’ve written before how author / illustrator partnerships where the collaborators are friends seem to produce books that stand out more, whether they were friends before or became friends from working together, and the partnership of Mark Sperring and Sarah Warburton shines through in Mabel and Me Best of Friends.

I’ve loved Sarah Warburton’s work for several years now and have previously raved about The Princess and the Peas, a collaboration with Caryl Hart. I’m not sure Caryl and Sarah knew each other well before working on The Princess and the Peas but they certainly completely “got” each other and what was needed there, and Sarah showcases her talent for matching pictures to text again with Mabel and Me.

Mabel and Me‘s unlikely friendship is between a little girl and her “strange little creature thing with scrawny hairy rodent legs” friend. “Me” takes centre stage with Mabel only saying a few words throughout the book, although these words are significant as well as being “hugely harrowing and diabolically difficult” on occasion.

The words chosen throughout the story are spot-on. Many phrases from this book have entered the everyday subconscious of the Chaos household. “Hey, you, you in the tutu!” being a particular favourite. But it’s not just the words that are spot-on; each character’s expression conveys so much meaning. The shocked faces of Monsieur Famous French Photographer and Senora Prima Ballerina (and what wonderful names they are too!); Me’s perplexity, indignation and forlornness (amongst others); and most of all the looks of friendship between Mabel and Me.

There is too much to love about this book. From the copyright page styled as a wall with posters pasted on; the end papers showing the characters in daytime and night; the detailing of the city they walk through; the cat in one window eying up a goldfish in another; the fez and stetson thrown in the air (Fezzes are cool!); the photobooth with a mustache; more wall posters…

The detail in the illustrations make this book a joy to read over and over again, plus give so many jumping points for follow on projects: houses and architecture; Europe; ballet; photography; design; dance; emotions… Not to mention what can be taken from the text: alliteration; mixed-up sayings…

Overall and beyond all that, this is a lovely story about friendship that we all enjoy on different levels. Although suitable for toddlers and up, there is so much in Mabel and Me that makes it perfect for older children so I’d recommend for any household with children aged 2-10.

Mabel and Me Best of Friends is currently out in hardback with RRP of £12.99 and is worth every penny; it’s out in paperback on 4th July.

You can read a lovely story behind the creation of the book and a newsflash mini-story starring Mabel and Me on Sarah Warburton’s blog plus an interview with Sarah here. I’m not leaving Mark out on purpose, I just couldn’t find much of an online presence to share!

Disclaimer: We were sent a copy of Mabel and Me Best of Friends by Sarah Warburton and HarperCollins Children’s Books for review. No other financial reward was given and the opinions are my own. I was not asked to write this post.

Sarah also wrapped the book beautifully and added some lovely extras, which made me squeak loudly when we opened the package. Huge and extra-special thank-yous from us all to Sarah xx

Mabel and Me book and cards

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The Case for Cheese Sandwiches

Parenting blogs and twitter are often abuzz with how to make packed lunches less boring. No more cheese sandwiches every day they cry! What can we do to give a different lunch every day? How do we make lunches more exciting?

Well, I’m sorry, I’m boring. I’m quite happy with the same lunch day in, day out. For me it’s a ham sandwich, preferably with mayo and lettuce. Maybe something on the side; maybe just the sandwich. My girls both prefer cheese to ham. They both like sandwiches. I do put other things in their lunch boxes. Sometimes it might be the cliché of a packet of crisps and a biscuit (plus drink); more often it’s something healthier like cucumber and tomatoes; strawberries and yogurt.

But the cheese sandwich is a staple. I’m happy with the same lunch every day, and so are my children. Perhaps it is a mildly autistic trait that we have. Familiarity in lunch is a good thing for children who dislike change or suffer anxiety. Knowing that your lunch is ‘safe’ and unchanging can help with all the other stresses with being at school.

Besides, what’s so boring about cheese sandwiches anyway?

Cheese sandwiches in butterfly shapes

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